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Point 76: Scholar Reflections – Ilka Honour

What an amazing convention that was! I had never been to Vegas, let alone a convention of body piercers, so I had a fantastic time. I am sure that my life will never be the same. Now that I have been home for a couple of weeks and readjusted to home life, I have had some time to think of three key subjects that I really brought away from the Conference.

I was stunned and intrigued by the beauty of the modified and bejeweled bodies of the attendees. This was a walking tribute to the cutting edge of self expression and individuality. The mods. The piercings. The jewelry. The dress. It was a majestic spectacle of human style. I decided to step up my game and join in this circus show of design. I am inspired. I will keep you all posted as I morph.

The professional training I received in marketing and online sales will be the key component to my future business plans. I am currently refurbishing the most adorable trailer into a fully functioning tiny studio. I will be relying on an online presence to book my clients and sell my jewelry. The tips and tricks that I learned in class will save me a ton of research time as well as money.

It was also great to meet my colleagues face to face before befriending them on social media. I feel that after a personal meeting I would be more comfortable trying to glean a little more information from them than I would after just a cold online meeting. I feel like a professional with distinguished colleagues. Sounds adult doesn’t it?

The mystical and mysterious healing powers of the shamanic practices had a place there. I enjoyed the classes that referred to those ancient ways and our modern application. I treat my clients with reverence and great love when they are needing a healing. I would like to further develop my skills in this area, and I look forward to sharing my experiences with those of similar mind at Conference next year.

It is with profound appreciation that I extend my heartfelt thanks to you all for selecting me. It is a progressive idea funding scholarships. I hope to pay forward the opportunity you shared with me to another aspiring attendee soon.

Point 76: Scholar Reflections – Fabrício Cardoso

Original Port:
A minha participação como um atendente bolsista Al D. foi extraordinária toda a trajetória, textos, vídeos, visto, conversas para no fim fazer tarefas modestas, acompanhando toda a responsabilidade

de lidar bem com o público, de não interromper o ritmo de trabalho, uma preocupação minha. Foi com certeza um presente, um grande prêmio da minha vida, pela qual sou muito grato. Que ajudou nos custos de uma viagem internacional. É uma felicidade muito grande ter ajudado a cuidar da casa. O contato com pessoas boas, profissionais, envento organizado. Curti todas as classes, eventos, socialização, cada momento inédito.

O reconhecimento do esforço aqui veio rápido e responsabilidades também. Percebi como estamos perto do ideal é como o bom acabamento faz toda diferença. Emocionante ver a indústria do piercing americana de perto, sua história. E é sentir seu maior bem que são as pessoas que intregram a APP, gostei imensamente do povo muito educado, hospitaleiro e carinhoso.

Interpretation by Pablo Nicolas Perelmuter:
My involvement as an Al D. Scholar was extraordinary. I had a few concerns before attending; the whole process of the event, the instructions and videos regarding modest volunteer tasks, following all responsibilities when dealing with attendees, and not interrupting the pace of work.

It was definitely a gift, a great prize of my life, for which I am very grateful. This gift helped cover the costs of my international travel. In return, I was more than happy to help take care of the Conference while connecting with good people and professionals in a well organized event.

I enjoyed all classes, events, socializing, and each unique moment. The recognition of the effort here came fast and responsibilities too. I realized how close we are to the ideal and how the detail is what makes all the difference. It was exciting to see the American piercing industry closely, and witness its history. It feels like your greatest asset are the people that are part of the APP.

I enjoyed myself immensely. The people were very polite, hospitable, and kind. Thank you very much for everything.

Editor’s Note: Please note this serves as an interpretation rather than a translation; a direct translation from Portuguese to English is not possible.

Point 76: Scholar Reflections – Nicole Holmes

When I look back at the big fuzzy ball of excitement and emotion that has become my fused memory of this year’s APP Conference, I can’t help but inhale a contemplative breath of satisfaction and wonder. This year was my first and I was fortunate to be awarded the Al D. Scholarship; it gave me a view beyond simply attending.

The event and location were not at all what I had expected. As it turns out I thoroughly enjoy Vegas, which came as quite a surprise being a tree-dwelling hippy! Before the Conference began, I took the time to look around; wandering the streets it was easy to spot other piercers doing the same. We definitely took over Vegas!

Cherry picking my highlights I would have to say the first few volunteer meetings were an unforgettable experience. Such an amazing collection of wacky and wonderful people gathered for a collective cause. I felt instantly at home and quickly part of the volunteer family. Helping with attendee reception during Registration was particularly electric. All the attendees lining up down the hall with anticipation. An incredible hubbub.

Another favorite moment was the privilege of covering the Expo door just as the Members-only hour started. It was so fun to be part of that hour long piercer Christmas!

I had a particular fondness for 45 piercings in 45 minutes. This was a fast paced video reel of quick edit videos showing the few seconds before, during, and after the execution of a piercing from a head cam worn by the piercer.

Also, I never realized how many Members-only sessions there would be. While there were so many classes available to every piercing attendee, the Members-only sections were quite different. Delving deeper and longer into the discussion material.

But fun and memorable aside, I wasn’t just attending as Nici the piercer and volunteer. I was also there as Nici the first president of the UKAPP and for that, I had many many educational and eye opening moments. Seeing the well-oiled machine that is Caitlin and Conference – together still learning and growing, becoming ever more tight knit – showed me that the UKAPP holds the potential for something great. It has the potential to become a thing that really can benefit both individuals and the industry mutually.

For example, the doubling up of speakers in each class was possibly accidental genius. Having multiple opinions on each topic, varied experiences, and often even moments of yin and yang techniques was eye opening and definitely something I appreciated and will take home.

In short, I learned a lot, made dozens of new and future friends. I had some fantastic new experiences. I pushed my personal limits and boundaries. I met some of my heroes and bought some amazing jewelry. I will definitely make it my goal to return each and every year possible.

I’d like to take this opportunity to urge you to get to next year’s Conference and if you’re struggling, please apply for one of the scholarships. Also to say a huge thank you to everyone that helped me get there this year. You were right, I needed to go and it did change my life.

Point 76: Scholarship Reflections – Maree Fowler

You’ll make life long friends, they said.
Be prepared for tears, they said.
It will change your life and you will want to volunteer every year, they said.
They were right.

Receiving the call saying I was successful in gaining an Al D. Scholarship was emotional. They, the volunteers, are one big family and every year open their arms and welcome a group of strangers as one of their own. It truly is heartwarming that no matter how many miles from home any given volunteer was, no one was ever alone. With endless hugs, laughter, and self care reminders, I always felt safe and relaxed.

For many, in our youth we were the outcast, quiet, nerdy, alternative kids. To be in a place and be surrounded with what feels like ‘your own kind’ is a beautiful experience. For me personally, I was incredibly nervous, shy, and found it hard to start conversations. Mostly I was anxious for my first volunteer shift working the classroom door. It’s an intimidating feeling having up to 300 beautiful and skilled piercers standing in front of you, many of whom I admire. There were many I did not know, but wanted to get to know. However, I surprised myself and found I loved scanning their passes and welcoming them to the class. The quick hellos and welcomes, exchanging a few friendly words; this gave me the confidence I needed to enjoy and gain the most from Conference.

There are so many highlights, memories, and experiences to list. If asked what I took away from Conference, I would have to say, passion for this industry. I gained more than I even had before, self confidence to trust in myself both professionally and personally. Should I ever need to reach out, I have the support of my new duckling family and fellow attendees from Conference. Las Vegas and the APP Conference & Expo has been a humbling and unforgettable experience.

This wee lassy has come back to Scotland with newfound friends, new goals I will strive to achieve, and a lasting desire to be the best piercer I can be.

From the bottom of my heart, thank you. I will make it my mission to be there again next year. All my love.

Point 76: Scholar Reflections – Jamie Biggers

This year has been a completely life changing experience because of the Al D. Scholarship. Where I come from, there is no sense of community within the industry. Now that I’ve attended Conference, I feel like I have a home and a family. Previously, I was so stagnant in my career it wasn’t even funny. Now, because of the amazing opportunity I was given to attend this year’s Conference, not only have I pushed myself harder to learn, but I’ve pushed myself in my business as well. Solely based on Conference, I now have an achievable goal of opening the only APP shop in my county by next Conference.

The sense of community and love I now feel from the industry is amazing. These newly discovered feelings are all because of the people who thought I was deserving enough to be a part of the volunteer group. For whatever reason, they saw something in me that they felt was worthy enough of this life changing experience. Conference changed my outlook on—not just piercing—but my life as well.

I just want to say thank you to Caitlin for putting up with my BS and every single volunteer. Also, I want to thank Krista Crespo, Becky Dill, the Bay Area Piercing Group, and most of all the crew at Electric Monk Tattoo for pushing me and helping me get this scholarship. It has been an amazing experience. Thank you.

Point 76: Scholar Reflections – Hannah Bough

I initially found out about Conference four years ago. However, up until last year, attending it was something that seemed unachievable for me, until I found out about the Al D. Scholarship. I found applying for the scholarship to be an extremely nerve wracking experience. I just hoped that throughout the application process my hard work, dedication, and passion for the industry would show. I don’t think I’ll ever forget the moment I got the call from Kendra to say I made it. Achieving a place as a Scholar was definitely a career defining moment for me.

In the weeks leading up to Conference, I became extremely excited to meet all of the faces I had seen from the other side of a computer screen. I watched all of the training videos, attended meetings, and prepared myself for the tasks that were to be set for me as a Scholar. However, nothing could prepare me for what I was about to undertake.

Being a volunteer means you get to be part of this awesome group of people who accept you as if you have been part of Conference since day one. They accept you as one of their own and take care of you when you need it (and even if you don’t.) I have never met a group of people so willing to help others at the drop of a hat. The selflessness of the volunteers is astounding and I am already counting down the days until I get to see them again.

There are numerous things that happened during my time at Conference that I won’t forget: the myriad of information during classes, meeting some of the piercers whose work I admire, volunteer dinner, and the extremely loud singing on the way (I’m sure the other passengers on the bus were delighted by our dulcet tones!) Yet, one of the most overwhelming and emotional moments for me was having my name called out at Banquet. It made me feel privileged to stand up in front of my peers, knowing that we are all striving to make our industry a better place and that all of the hard work during the application process had been worth it.

I am really happy that I pushed myself out of my comfort zone and applied for the scholarship. It was definitely worth all of the stress I put myself under. If asked if I would do it again I would, without a second thought. Since coming back from Conference I have faced my work with a renewed energy and I am counting down the days until next year. Thank you to everyone I met during my week for making my experience great, but especially Caitlin, Kendra, and Ryan for allowing me to be part of it.

Point 76: Scholar Reflections – Angie van Dijken

“I’m too inexperienced, too small, too far away. Let’s attend in the future, when I’m more experienced. Why should I attend now?” Thoughts that have frequently gone through my head. I was second guessing myself all the time; doubt all over. It wasn’t until after a conversation with Shorty; he convinced me to go, with just one single question: “Do you want to improve?” Of course I do! “Then sign up,” he said and so I did. Two days before the deadline with the thought, “at least I tried.” I’m happy I did, because I got through!

I drove to the airport, slightly fearful of going on a trip this far alone and not knowing what to expect, but there was no need to be worried. I arrived safe and sound at Bally’s Hotel and it felt like home right from the start. It’s just so great to see people from all over the world, with the same passion for piercing and the same purpose to attend—to teach and learn.

Everyone was super friendly and showed true interest in one another, all open for a chat or a hug. It is the place to network, make friends, have fun, and have a drink or two. Just by having conversations with others, you will learn new things, get new ideas, or get the advice you were looking for. In one week you will increase your knowledge and expand your view on things.

The classes were great and interesting. Being a volunteer, I also had the chance to see what goes on back-stage, how truly amazing it is to see so many people working together to make this Conference happen. Without them, this wouldn’t be possible!

I’m so glad I applied for the Al D. Scholarship. I’ve grown in so many aspects, professionally and personally. Not only did I learn a lot, but I also made new friends. I have a new family now. I can proudly say, I’ve been there and hell yes, I’ll be back again as a volunteer!

So, if you are like me—second guessing if you should go, because you feel like you don’t have the experience or own a small studio—just ask yourself one thing. Do you want to improve?

Point 76: Tether – Creative Innovator Award & Best Single Booth

Kendra Jane: Tether Jewelry had a very strong first show at this year’s expo. Tell us how it came to be and what the line is all about?

Tether Jewelry: Tether is about creating a jewelry brand that is not only innovative and beautiful, but can reach a wide audience. Riding that line between where designs can be enjoyed and embraced by all people. No matter gender/scene/age, jewelry for all. With each piece of jewelry we hope to take you on a journey; our story is just beginning. That is why this season is called Genesis.

Spending 15 years at a very jewelry-centric studio was where I truly fell in love with body jewelry and all it’s diversity. I started asking “why isn’t anyone making this/doing this better?”

It was at that time I was blessed with the job of designing a line for the shop, I got my first taste as a jewelry designer, and began to bring answers to that question. During that time it really inspired me to explore my designing capability further.

It was 3 years ago, at the 2013 Conference that I decided I wanted to finally pull the trigger on starting my very own jewelry line. The following year was tough; I kept running into obstacles and other frustrations. All while continuing to pierce. I finally decided to take a huge leap of faith and step away from piercing last year to give Tether all my energy. Fast forward to now, after an amazing response at the Expo. It feels so good to have overcome those roadblocks and have reassurance that the leap of faith I took was worth it. The future looks very bright and I’m excited to continue in this industry I love so very much as a jewelry designer and manufacturer.

Kendra Jane: How did you come up with the name of your company?

Tether Jewelry: Naming things/projects is the hardest thing for me. My brain can’t seem to commit to one idea. But there was something very natural and easy when “Tether” popped into my head. The name comes from a place of feeling anchored and connected to things. Being a social shapeshifter myself, I like to be fluid and sit in between two social scenes or two places, taking inspiration from different places and surrounding myself with many peer groups. Tether comes from that place too. There is something uniting and comfortable about that flexibility.Tether Jewelry display

Kendra Jane: This year Tether took home not only the Innovator’s Creative Award but also the Best Single Booth Award, what was the inspiration behind the design of your booth?

Tether Jewelry: I wanted to bring the feeling and identity of Tether out and present all my products in a striking yet minimal environment. We wanted to create a visual experience that was uniquely Tether. We arranged our jewelry display in a way that made you feel like you were looking at an alien language, and as our guest, to feel like you’re a space explorer that just stepped into another world.

Kendra Jane: The design of your booth was unique, but everything about your presentation is very well thought out, right down to your packaging. Tell us more about this.

Tether Jewelry: It took over 2 years to come up with a more complete system for the line. Tether isn’t just about the jewelry. It’s a true exploration of those great feelings you get from adornment and fashion. When you open a box and it contains something that when you put into your hands, or put on, it gives you joy. You get a smile, smirk, or goosebumps. I know we all have felt it. This is my compass in my journey as a designer.

Everything has been designed together and iterated many times. Every color we use is deliberate: our displays, the font, our images on social media, all of it.

There is a quote that has always rang true for me from Doug Tompkins who founded a successful outdoor line: “There is no such thing as small details.”

I also say “we” because all of this wouldn’t have happened without the team of artists/designers and dreamers that are part of Tether. And, of course, to our wearers. Tether is about building something bigger than myself and trusting collaborations and making long term, deeper connections to bring forward something truly special. I hope people can feel that.Tether clicker display

Kendra Jane: Each one of your pieces has a name and a story, please tell us what some of them are?

Tether Jewelry: The 2017 Collection was named Genesis as it marks the beginning of our journey. Our first experiment to glimpse into a future unknown. It’s inspired by water and crafts of travel; both space and sea. Also comes from a passion for machines, science fiction and architecture. Some of the designs were brilliant accidents.

Navigator — The very first locket ear weight. The name came from the movie Flight of the Navigator. I adored that movie as a kid. The shape of this design was inspired by the spaceship in the movie and a traditional gold ear weight from the Tamil Nadu region of India. This is my ode to alien spacecrafts that can travel our deep blue seas as well as the vast expanse of space.

Melange — Inspired by the distinctive work of H.R. Giger, I wanted to create a piece to have depth, and texture, but from more angles. It’s my own take on gold granulation, stacking together long tubular ellipsoids to create patterns.

Drake Series — The Genesis collection is inspired by ocean and water. One of the most well known civilizations that had their own innovations on the sea were the Vikings. The longships were way ahead of their time. And so this design is an ode to one of their ships. The Drake name comes from the word Draken which means dragon. The Vikings sometimes had a dragon-shaped prow on their longships as a symbol for protection. Out of that design, using the curving lines of a Viking longship keel, manifested the Drake cuff. The Drake hoop was an accident from an early iteration of the cuff that was too large, I immediately thought how a larger clicker weight would be great in earlobes.

Kendra Jane: What are your plans for the next year?

Tether Jewelry: You can expect more designs next year. I am committed to ensure we are delivering the best product to the end customer. Our primary goal for next year is how to be a better wholesale-only design house. All the while enjoying ourselves and trying to create a memorable and lasting experience.

Kendra Jane: Do you have any advice to those small companies that are thinking about making their first appearance on the Expo floor at Conference?

Tether Jewelry: This took a huge leap of faith for me. Plan for the long game, there are no shortcuts. This industry is growing fast and there is a little piece for all of us. Don’t be afraid to partner with someone. We can’t do everything ourselves, especially when doing it well.

Tether Jewelry - 2016 APP Expo Booth

Point 76: Tawapa – Best Multiple Booth

Marina Pecorino headshotMarina Pecorino
Managing Editor of Content & Statistics

At this year’s Exposition, Tawapa won the multiple booth award with their dark unicorn themed display. I had the opportunity to interview Phoebe, owner and designer for Tawapa, about how their processes and ideas have evolved during 20 years of producing jewelry for the industry. Manufacturing and distribution to over 200 countries is a huge job, and it sounds like Tawapa is constantly fine-tuning their processes to meet demand and introduce new designs.

Marina: Tawapa has been producing jewelry for our industry for 20 years. How have the manufacturing and order processes changed in that time?

Tawapa: 20 years is a long time. Everything has changed, and then changed back, and then changed again. The manufacturing process used to be much much simpler. In the beginning we only produced carved jewelry. Ideas were communicated to the carvers via my drawings. I started Tawapa in 1996 working with the carver who was making buttons for my clothing line at the time. I loved him, but the industry grew quickly in the beginning; he began taking on a lot of clients and our quality and security were compromised. So I started the Tawapa carving workshop in about ‘98 or ‘99. Building our own workshop made it possible to hire a team focused only on Tawapa. This meant, better quality, consistency and prices. It also gave steady jobs to a small team who really got to know our product and our vision. These are the guys who still carve all of Tawapa’s organic jewelry. Our relationship has been long and prosperous. It’s been great growing up together.

We are now, clearly, more focused on metals which is a huge shift in manufacturing (and designing). I started the Tawapa metal workshop about 7-8 years ago. This was the next major milestone in our production capabilities. I learned so much in this process and was once again able to provide solid jobs to a strong team who could grow with us. Here we have our master wax carver who works beside me on new designs. She is, incidentally one of the only female wax carvers in Bali. She is highly skilled and can work sometimes up to one month on extremely complicated designs. Her finished waxes go to casting and then come back to the workshop for finishing. Besides our wax carver we have 2 amazing sample makers. These guys make hand made samples that don’t need cast pieces for the design. They are also the ones who finish our “masters” for casting and who consistently help me problem solve; they are our engineers. Their skill surpasses most silversmiths I have met, so their time is precious.

Next we have our production team. These people are piecing every item of jewelry together with their hands, their bench, a torch and some solder. Our team is stellar and coincidentally predominantly female, which is very uncommon in the jewelry business. They come to us with different degrees of skills. It’s been amazing to watch these women excel, deepening their skills while sharing, teaching, and learning from each other. The intent is that everyone who works for us learns greater skills for the future while they become experts working piece by piece on Tawapa jewelry.

Using metal is infinitely inspiring to me. Every day and every year I learn more about the process, while creating new processes and transforming old ones.

Regarding the ordering process, we have gone from producing stock and selling what we have, to primarily taking orders and filling them, to finding a happy medium. Producing quantity and quality to fill orders in a timely fashion is an inherent challenge in this business where everything is handmade in small facilities. Through the combination of in-house stock and taking orders, we are able to hone in on this great conundrum and continue to fill orders better and faster.

Marina: Tawapa is woman-owned and operated. Has Tawapa chosen to always employ only women and why?

Tawapa: This has been a natural evolution of the company. We do not exclude men. We love men 🙂 I think energetically, the environment Jenella and I have created over time is more feminine, and therefore we attract females. I know that in our production studio, since we have balanced the gender scheme, it is a much gentler environment for everyone to work in. Incidentally, this choice was not at my request, it just happened naturally.

Marina: Tawapa offers a huge selection of designs and materials, which must require a lot of space and a wide variety of skills. How is quality control handled within the manufacturing process.

Tawapa: As I mentioned earlier, we have a carving workshop and a metals workshop. We also have started sampling ourselves here in Los Angeles, which helps speed the whole process along.

We have at least 3 stages of QC. The carving workshop quality controls everything they produce, then they deliver to the metal workshop. Here, we have full time QC people dedicated to checking the quality while also checking and testing and double testing everything that is produced in the metal workshop. Next, all of that jewelry lands in our studio in Los Angeles, where we have 1-3 people checking every single piece of jewelry that comes through here…. again. It’s a very important process that takes a lot of time and employs several people.

Marina: Where do you guys find inspiration for new designs and jewelry lines?

Tawapa: I am inspired by everything all the time! It’s limitless. But I like to focus on a few important topics every year or every season.

We did a large collection of geometric inspired jewelry a couple years ago. This year I was inspired by gothic and deco stained glass. I mean, it is infinite, and this inspiration is what drives me.Tawapa - unicorn display

Marina: Tawapa has released all sorts of new designs within the last year. Which new designs are the Tawapa pirates most excited about this season?

Tawapa: Oh wow… so much! To begin with, we are excited about horn again for the first time in awhile. The simple sophisticated geometric shapes that are a long way from previous “tribal jewelry” are really changing our current outlook on carved jewelry. I wear horn again! Besides that, the bondage eyelets are super innovative and new. (We love all the new eyelets.)

We are thrilled about all of the septum jewelry and push pins. The black nano coating has added a refreshing new look to everything. A few favorite designs would be the Minona, Valkyrie Shield, the Owl, Origami Weights, Unicorn Weights, and Notre Dame (inspired from the window of Notre Dame). We are also excited about the inclusion of stone in so many of our new designs.

Marina: Where does Tawapa find inspiration for the Conference booth displays?

Tawapa: We LOVE creating displays! We spend way too much time, effort and money on it, because we enjoy it so much. This year that unicorn (previously a horse) came to us magically, and we sort of built the display around her, deciding that matte black was this year’s color choice. I’ve also been really inspired by street art lately. I’ve been learning screen printing, so some of that carried over to the overall look of the campaign. Every year is different depending on current inspirations. #currentmood Going all white a couple years ago was a bold move for a dark industry that I think everyone found surprisingly refreshing.

Marina: Does Tawapa have any suggestions about how to handle and display your jewelry in the shop?

Tawapa: Be innovative with your materials. Think outside of traditional “displays” and use unusual items and materials for your displays. Creating multiple levels is really important to us. The key is to create a visually stimulating display that maintains an essence of simplicity so that it does not overwhelm the viewer. It’s a thin line. You need to wow your customers with an amazing display that doesn’t take focus away from the jewelry, but rather, draws them in and makes it easy for them to digest, and want to buy.

Marina: Is there anything else you’d like to share with the Point readership?

Tawapa: We are just really humbled that we are still here after 20 years! It has been an exciting ride. It is awesome to be 20 years in and feeling more inspired than ever. We are so grateful to all of our shops, piercers, friends, and community who have stood by us all of these years. I think that in this industry more than most, there is a very symbiotic relationship between all of us. All of us at Tawapa love and respect the relationship we have within this greater community that goes beyond manufacturing jewelry. It is a relationship that has withstood the test of time… and it feels great! So, thanks, you guys! We love you!

Tawapa - 2016 APP Expo

Point 76: It’s Not Just Counter Girl – Stephanie Hill

Stephanie Hill - Prysm Business ConsultantStephanie Hill
Prysm Body Piercing – Business Consultant

Alicia Cardenas led a well-attended round table at this year’s APP Conference titled, “Women in Piercing.” The group in attendance explored the past, current, and future experiences of those identifying as women in the piercing industry. As we went around the room hearing from people describing their situations or that of others in their shops, we learned that as an industry we still have opportunities to improve, especially in the following areas:
• Harassment, discrimination, and abuse
• Objectification
• Language norms
• Active presence of female role models
• Leadership positions

Coming from a corporate background, I was surprised to hear how prevalent harassment, discrimination, and abuse based on gender still are within the body modification industry. I have always had to go through mandatory training and regular reminders of what is (not) acceptable and what is (not) legal. Yet, many of the stories I was hearing sounded accepted with no one taking action whether or not the person being victimized spoke up about the treatment. Experiences by managers, coworkers, and clients (male and female) included verbal degradation, persistent sexual advances, and physically inappropriate acts that in many cases traumatized the female piercer victims. We all have a legal right to not experience that from any individual that interacts with the business (staff, vendor, or client).

If your business does not have a sexual harassment policy, please adopt one and ensure that your staff has been properly trained. If you (or your manager) is not sure where to start or what your rights are, there are many companies that can provide this expertise and training. First and foremost, everyone in your studio must feel safe at all times. Several people in the round table suggested ways to express this violation of safety. Saying to a client, “you are making me uncomfortable, so I need you to change how you are speaking to me in order for us to continue,” is a great way to set and follow-through on ground rules. If they continue, all personnel must feel that it is appropriate for them to refuse service to that client at any point in the interaction. No client or sale is worth sacrificing anyone’s emotional or physical safety. Finally, know that you have legal rights. If you experience abuse, contact your police department. If you have questions about harassment or discrimination, investigate government agencies that provide support or speak with a lawyer. I have always been taught to write allegations down as you experience them. Sometimes, the pattern of behavior is more telling than an individual incident, so having a log of what you have experienced, along with dates, can provide the evidence needed to tell your story.

Objectification often seems subtler than other mistreatment based upon gender, but it quickly damages a person’s potential in their career. While many people assume this word means to treat a woman like an object, like a piece of meat, it goes beyond this. “Object” contrasts the word “subject,” like in a story: the reader only has interest in the subject of a story. The objects of a story merely exist to add background and interest to the subject. The object alone does not play a role of interest to the reader. Anything we learn about those people are merely to embellish what we know about the subject.

As women, we play this role more often than we notice, but we deserve the spotlight, too. If we bring that into daily experiences in the piercing world, whenever a female is discredited in a shop, often by a client, that female loses the opportunity to play a star role. A client may ask a male piercer the exact question he just asked the female, even if she is the owner, because the client may assume the male has more authority or knowledge. The group in the round table suggested to the men in the group that if a client asks a woman a question and then turns to them or another male asking them the same question, to avoid the tendency to give them the answer. Instead, say something like, “she just answered that question for you.” That type of response empowers the female, and she jumps into being the subject, not the object.

Illustration by Fish from Responsible Body Piercing by Michaela Grey & Jim Ward. Used with permission.
Illustration by Fish from Responsible Body Piercing by Michaela Grey & Jim Ward. Used with permission.

Now, let’s talk about the term “counter girl.” When do we hear the term “boy” used for males over 18 years old? Historically in the U.S., “boy” has been a derogatory term to imply a subservient position or to sexualize a male. We have heard the term “boy” used during slave times or in other racially degrading manners, and we hear “pool boy” when middle-aged women plan to have an illicit affair with a young man. Other than sexualizing or demeaning a male, I do not hear the term, “boy” used to refer to a man. So, unless we intend to sexualize or demean our vital studio role, why does any shop continue to use the term, “counter girl?” If you still do this, please stop immediately. Change your job description. Change your postings for counter positions. Change your policy and/or procedure manual, and communicate this change to staff and clients, if necessary. There are no girls who work in your shop. People work in your shop. If you are a woman who is referred to as a “counter girl,” inform your manager that you would like a new title and why. Show that person this article if you need more of an explanation… or have them give me a call.

While I did hear some discouraging stories in the round table, I found it refreshing that many of the males in attendance encouraged and supported female piercers. We heard of several males who act as role models for women, but often that relationship has a damsel-in-distress/knight-in-shining-armor feel to it, whether that was the intent by either party or not. Two things that can remedy this are:
1) If men stop solving women’s problems for them and, instead, set the expectation for women to think critically and answer questions/solve problems through their own knowledge and research, they decrease the reliance on a male to hold control over that mentor-mentee relationship.
2) Provide a network of female role models who should do the suggestion from #1, but also demonstrate first-hand how critical thinking and self-reliance leads to increased respect, expertise, and leader-ship in the industry. We love having the male support, but we absolutely need to see and engage with the female leaders in the industry to help shape future female leaders.

Speaking of female leaders, we could all rapidly identify amazing current and past women in the industry who could be wonderful resources for providing guidance for other women. We also shared several experiences in which female leaders had taken on traditionally male qualities to “fit in” and establish the respect prior male leaders already had. Unfortunately, these more aggressive qualities often backfired by treating females in those workplaces more harshly than others. Some female leaders in the group expressed past feelings of losing themselves and their femininity as they attempted to gain acceptance and respect from their male community. They helped us learn that a significant number of female leaders perpetuate the disrespect and verbal/emotional abuse of women who enter this industry desperate for a strong, positive female role model to help her navigate the rough roads she will inevitably encounter. We need female (and male) allies. We need to maintain and celebrate our femininity in a way that centers on ourselves and not men.

The group left Alicia’s round table empowered, connected, and prepared to take action. One action we committed to was to change our language and expectations to match the level of respect and appreciation we deserve. Since Conference, we have supported one another through several positive changes. Many attendees shared their experiences, both positive and negative. A few others have shared tips and resources for developing ourselves as business women and leaders. I am excited by the future of this group and other females in the industry who may be joining us. And thank you to the men who have encouraged and supported us as we have paved our way in this industry.